From Burnout to Butch Cut

In capitalist societies people are under enormous pressure to be productive all the time. And so when we have phases where we cant be as productive or as creative as is demanded, then we think there is something wrong with us. This denies the nature of humans, the nature of life, and actually the nature of nature - even nature has productive cycles, and recovery cycles. And as humans we are perpetually going against our own nature, which is why we get a lot of weird diseases - because we are not listening to ourselves and we are not treating ourselves well. 

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Choose a card, any card...

The most valuable thing is how the cards show that there isn't one single thing that helps me (or anyone), instead there are many that can help in all sorts of ways, and rather than being rigid and regimented, it's good to shake things up and throw anything and everything at the problem. There are some big themes in the cards: getting back in your body by doing physical things, connecting with others, doing creative work such as writing and speaking, along with common sense stuff such as going to bed early.

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Taking life one day at a time

When I meet people I like to ask “How are you doing today?” rather than “How are you doing?” as I think it takes away the pressure for the person to find a “satisfying” answer to what can otherwise be an overwhelming question. Especially for people with anxiety like me, when someone asks how I am doing, I immediately panic and try to find a non-upsetting answer. For me this small difference in phrasing makes a huge difference for me.

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Depression, Body Dysmorphia and Kylie

In primary school I would often spend lunch time play on the bench sitting on my own -  I would get high anxiety thinking about my mum working nights, being scared of going home to my dad, not wanting to play football because I was no good at it, wanting to play hopscotch with the girls but knowing that was not really where I belonged either and the boys would frown upon that... and one game of hopscotch was not worth a week of being teasing about it. Describing how I feel today is like how I used to feel sitting on that bench. I’m watching from afar, wanting to join in, but I’m too worried, and too scared to even look up, because I may look too fem, too ugly, too awkward, too short, and too unable.

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Mental Health & Safety Poster

If you live in the UK, you'll most likely have noticed an HSE 'Health and Safety Law' poster on a random wall of your workplace, because companies are required to display it. However, this 'Health and Safety’ poster has zero mention of mental health.  As we all know, there is no health without mental health, so we've created the poster which contains this missing information… and you can download it for free.

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Selflove: it's more than a bubble bath

'Self-love’, 'loving yourself' urgh... these expressions have always made me absolutely cringe. As a Brit, the idea of 'loving yourself’ really is at odds with everything I’ve ever been taught; swanning about having bubble baths and listing all the nice things about myself...are you joking? But, while getting better acquainted with this whole 'self-love' thing, I discovered firstly, how much I'd misunderstood it, and secondly how little I had of it.

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Panic attacks: skills to help

There are a lot of skills people can learn to help cope with panic attacks, and it’s up to each person to try them out and see what methods work for them. I practice the skills when I’m not having a panic attack, in order to train myself for when an attack does happen. When I started learning these skills I tried to do them 3 or 4 times a day. 

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Is my anxiety 'normal' ?

I find that social media has had a hugely negative impact upon my mental health. I look at the pages of people I like/date, try to work out what things mean, where are they, who are they with. I wonder what it means when they "like" my photo which I have put up just to get their attention. If I was giving advice I would say this is incredibly unhealthy and TO STOP. But it is very hard.

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Toxic Masculinity and Me

He would constantly put my work down and pin creatives against one another. He did not see projects as collaborative. He also refused to see us as people on the same team, let alone playing field. He was so vocal and so aggressive, he forced himself onto all my projects. Eventually he kicked core team members off projects just so he could claim them for his own.

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Coming out: Round II

I had written that I'd hoped my mental health issues wouldn't be a big deal. But actually for me, being open about my mental health at work for the first time, was a big deal. I wasn't just being open about my mental health, I was being open about me, who I am. And I was no longer prepared to feel ashamed about that. Maybe it sounds strange, but I held my head a little higher that day. 

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